• The Family Systems approach promotes healthy, balanced relationships by supporting people to be well-differentiated
• Individuals with low self-differentiation try to please others to gain acceptance, or they try to force others to conform to them
• Those with higher levels of self-differentiation maintain their principles thoughtfully
• They are not defined by others, or reactive to the anxieties of others
• Well-differentiated people are resilient, they can tolerate strong feelings and they are respectful of differences